Thursday, January 21, 2016

Another shot at online dating. POF, Match...

The first time I tried online dating must have been about 12 years ago. I don't feel much has changed. I went one date and was terrified by the aggression of a woman who seemed to be about 10 years older than what she posted on her profile. After my one month subscription, I gave up and didn't think about meeting someone online for years.
Six years later, I tried again. A different city, yet, the experience was somewhat similar. Instead of being older, the woman that I met was, well, of a different body type that appealed to me. However, that wasn't really the issue with the mismatch. I felt that she was clueless with regard to current events.  She also called me more frequently than I liked.  I did not reciprocate her behaviour and it only took a week for us to no longer communicate.
2 years later, again in another city, or town with a population about 20000, I met with one woman, for coffee. She was older than projected, and surprisingly less healthy looking than I would like. She wasn't interested in conversation, but she needed an audience. I felt that she was somewhat rude. Fortunately, the meetup for coffee ended early and that was the end of it. 

Back on POF, for the hell of it, I cannot stand communicating via my computer or mobile phone. Some women have initiated conversation, but I feel that I don't know how to communicate properly online. I may just delete my account after this two week experiment. 

I like to use a computer to look up things related to my hobbies - not socialize. I sometimes wonder if that my person is some asexual anomaly. Being single is not pleasant, however I have no idea how I can change my situation. Getting a real job would be a start – after years of relentless effort of applying to jobs, networking, etc, I feel that no amount of ambition means securing better employment.

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